Last night, Chris Cofler won a Golden Globe for his role on Glee. I love that show, but I think I love it because of the way that Chris Cofler's character, Kurt, is written. He is flamboyant, sensitive, and a fashionista, just like I was when I was 17 trying to find my way in high school. He is bullied for being different, just as I was, and he rises above it on a regular basis, just like I did. In his acceptance speech, Cofler told those kids who are different and who are bullied because of it to keep on being themselves. I am inspired.
I am inspired because in this day and age, it is easier to be out than it was when I was a kid. I hated going to school everyday when I was 17. I hated that just because I was different, I was scapegoated and made to feel like less of a person. I hated the taunts, the jeers, the shoves, the names, and everything else that made me feel insignificant. But I was incredibly lucky. I had people who had my back, stood up for me, and made that pain disappear immediately. I can't imagine not having a network like I have, and I would hate to think about what would have happened if I didn't.
I know that there are several people from my youth who read my posts. I am grateful for that, but more grateful that because you knew me in my awkward years and stood by my side, I am who I am today. Sure, I have had my run of bad luck over the past few years, but it hasn't stopped me from being who I am. I guess I am pretty lucky; I am still here, and everyday is a new adventure.
I wouldn't trade my life in for anything. I LOVE who I am. I love that I have amazing people in my life who challenge me on a daily basis. I love that I have a family who would take a bullet for me, let alone provide me with advice that is so important and so necessary. I love that my friends who knew me then, loved me then, and stood up for me then, are the same ones who continue to do that today.
Tonight, this puts everything into perspective. And, congratulations to Chris Cofler. He is not just my hero, but an amazing human being who has so much more to offer the entertainment and LGBT community.
Monday, January 17, 2011
Sunday, January 2, 2011
Random Musing - January 2, 2011
Well, well, well. At the urging of my biggest follower - my sister Amy - I am starting back up and hoping that whatever randomness I find exciting entertains, educates, and makes you, my readers, think about the world around you.
It's a new year... so let the cliches begin! Clean slates for everyone! Really? No, not really! I don't believe in the clean slate. I don't think that we should be given an opportunity to make mistakes and not pay the consequences that come with them. I don't think that we should write people off who have crossed us or done us wrong. No, sports fans, I think that these moments are the impetus for us to change the things that we dislike, but not forget them. I would rather have a dirty slate anyway... it's old, it's comfortable, and most of all, its me. It's character building. It makes me who I am, and some of the dirt on that slate was fun when it happened.
This year, I did make a few resolutions. Nothing too major, but enough to make small, subtle changes to what I am expecting will be a fabulous year. I have had two really SHITTY years, and all comments aside, I wouldn't trade in some of those life lessons I learned (I would however, would have found the cure for cancer and saved my dad so we could talk football and I could laugh with him again). So with you, sports fans, I share with you my resolutions.
#1. I resolve to make healthier choices. That's right. I am opting for dressing on side, steamed and not fried, and sharing appetizers and nibbles when out. Actually, I am opting to cooking in more, showing my flair in the kitchen, and bringing my own lunch to work. Which leads me to the second resolution.
#2. I resolve to save more and spend less. Actually, I need to save more. I need to stop with the grande-cafe-mocha-non-fat-no-whip at Starbucks everyday. (No, I don't do that everyday!). But I think I may have to suck it up and drink the coffee at work instead of spending the $2.41 on my Extra Large French Vanilla regular at Dunkin Donuts everyday. It's cost effective.
#3. I resolve to continue to go to shows. Yes. I know I said I would save more, so I am making a concert budget so I can see the acts I want to see and not have that painful regret and say " I shoulda gone to that show." Yeah. That's right. A concert budget.
#4. I will continue to connect with old friend via the Internet. I love that. I love that people give me a "remember when... " at least once a week. It's fun. I laugh a lot! I need to laugh. Laughing is therapeutic.
#5. I will maintain and develop the friendships I have. I met some INCREDIBLE people this past year; people I know have had an impact on me, and who will continue to have an impact on me. It really is true... when life hands you lemons, make lemonade. Only mine is a really boozey, sassy lemonade. And it's tasty. And I have really embraced the hand I was dealt (again with the cliches). I am working things out.. making the best of them. Fortunately for me, I have an AMAZING network of people, many who I know would take a bullet for me or help me bury a body, but regardless, they are there.
So what does this year have in store for me? Who knows. Just as long as it was better than last. I know it will involve a lot of Real Housewives, evenings of BLACKOUT, and a lot of laughs. A whole shitload of laughs. So, as I raise my glass and toast the new year, and say GOOD RIDDANCE to the last, I leave you with this. I absolutely love this song... and it pretty much sums up how I feel about the New Year. And it's friggin Death Cab, for crying out loud. It wouldn't be a post without a hot-as-shit video.
I hope this year is prosperous, fruitful and fabulous, but most importantly, I hope that if there are lessons to be learned, you get to learn them.
It's a new year... so let the cliches begin! Clean slates for everyone! Really? No, not really! I don't believe in the clean slate. I don't think that we should be given an opportunity to make mistakes and not pay the consequences that come with them. I don't think that we should write people off who have crossed us or done us wrong. No, sports fans, I think that these moments are the impetus for us to change the things that we dislike, but not forget them. I would rather have a dirty slate anyway... it's old, it's comfortable, and most of all, its me. It's character building. It makes me who I am, and some of the dirt on that slate was fun when it happened.
This year, I did make a few resolutions. Nothing too major, but enough to make small, subtle changes to what I am expecting will be a fabulous year. I have had two really SHITTY years, and all comments aside, I wouldn't trade in some of those life lessons I learned (I would however, would have found the cure for cancer and saved my dad so we could talk football and I could laugh with him again). So with you, sports fans, I share with you my resolutions.
#1. I resolve to make healthier choices. That's right. I am opting for dressing on side, steamed and not fried, and sharing appetizers and nibbles when out. Actually, I am opting to cooking in more, showing my flair in the kitchen, and bringing my own lunch to work. Which leads me to the second resolution.
#2. I resolve to save more and spend less. Actually, I need to save more. I need to stop with the grande-cafe-mocha-non-fat-no-whip at Starbucks everyday. (No, I don't do that everyday!). But I think I may have to suck it up and drink the coffee at work instead of spending the $2.41 on my Extra Large French Vanilla regular at Dunkin Donuts everyday. It's cost effective.
#3. I resolve to continue to go to shows. Yes. I know I said I would save more, so I am making a concert budget so I can see the acts I want to see and not have that painful regret and say " I shoulda gone to that show." Yeah. That's right. A concert budget.
#4. I will continue to connect with old friend via the Internet. I love that. I love that people give me a "remember when... " at least once a week. It's fun. I laugh a lot! I need to laugh. Laughing is therapeutic.
#5. I will maintain and develop the friendships I have. I met some INCREDIBLE people this past year; people I know have had an impact on me, and who will continue to have an impact on me. It really is true... when life hands you lemons, make lemonade. Only mine is a really boozey, sassy lemonade. And it's tasty. And I have really embraced the hand I was dealt (again with the cliches). I am working things out.. making the best of them. Fortunately for me, I have an AMAZING network of people, many who I know would take a bullet for me or help me bury a body, but regardless, they are there.
So what does this year have in store for me? Who knows. Just as long as it was better than last. I know it will involve a lot of Real Housewives, evenings of BLACKOUT, and a lot of laughs. A whole shitload of laughs. So, as I raise my glass and toast the new year, and say GOOD RIDDANCE to the last, I leave you with this. I absolutely love this song... and it pretty much sums up how I feel about the New Year. And it's friggin Death Cab, for crying out loud. It wouldn't be a post without a hot-as-shit video.
I hope this year is prosperous, fruitful and fabulous, but most importantly, I hope that if there are lessons to be learned, you get to learn them.
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